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Men’s Issues Tag

  In Part I of this series, we looked at the unique strengths of a man.  He seems to have the ability to do things that are right and noble even when he doesn’t feel like it.  This makes him a good protector, servant leader and servant of God even when things are tough.  God knew what He was doing in the design of man.

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  However, we also said there is an enemy who sees a man’s strength and is out to exploit and pervert this strength.  The ability that man has to separate himself from his feelings can be good in some settings but can also be limiting in his ability to form deep and meaningful relationships.

I recently had a client lamenting the fact that her mother didn’t seem to know how to get beyond surface deep.  That no matter how much her daughter wanted to share with her on a deeper more intimate level, the mother would always revert to surface talk.  The daughter was frustrated by the inability to have a quality relationship with her mother and the judgemental nature of their conversations. I found myself saying to her, “You, know some people only live three inches deep.  They will not allow themselves to go beyond that depth for fear of touching on issues or emotions that they don’t know how to deal with.” Woman-child-GARDENING-LOW-REZ

God is comfortable with process. In the first chapter of Luke it says John the Baptist “grew and became strong in spirit.” In the second chapter of Luke it says “Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man.” Our culture seems to have lost the concept of growth and process. We want to be able to just “be there” or “arrive.” How many times do we sit in counseling with people who are frustrated because things aren’t changing as quickly as they would like them to? Yet, as much as we would like to see progress and change happen quickly in our lives and relationships, I have to believe that God allows some slow growth for a purpose.