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  In Part I of this series, we looked at the unique strengths of a man.  He seems to have the ability to do things that are right and noble even when he doesn’t feel like it.  This makes him a good protector, servant leader and servant of God even when things are tough.  God knew what He was doing in the design of man.

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  However, we also said there is an enemy who sees a man’s strength and is out to exploit and pervert this strength.  The ability that man has to separate himself from his feelings can be good in some settings but can also be limiting in his ability to form deep and meaningful relationships.

[caption id="attachment_495" align="aligncenter" width="470"] by Brent & Janis Sharpe[/caption] "Statistics show that nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce (US Census Bureau, February 2002)." PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING can help couples avoid becoming part of that statistic. LCC offers pre-marital counseling here in Tulsa, OK. AND if you are...

February 14, Valentine’s Day,  is the time of year where we consider romance and its impact on our world.  Recently, Janis and I went to a romantic comedy and found, once again, the entire story about the on again off again stumblings of a couple falling in love.  It always seems it is not until the last scene that they know the “magic” has struck and as the scene fades the obvious message is, now that we are “in love” the rest of life is “happily ever after”. love2

If you or your spouse is experiencing extreme ups and downs in your marriage despite constant commitments towards changed behaviors, you may be dealing with an underlying condition called ADHD.  ADHD is a neurological disorder that affects the way a person thinks and behaves.  The good news!  ADHD can be successfully treated when one combines education about the disorder with medication and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.  Symptoms can be effectively managed, therefore decreasing stressors in the home. ADHD post

In our years as marriage counselors, one of the things that grieves us over and over is how many wonderful, well-meaning couples do things that sabotage their marriages. They can be praying and believing for all the right and best things for their marriage, but their behavior actually works against all that they are praying for. We talk a lot in our marriage seminars about how to build our marriages, but if we are tearing them down at the same time, it’s a little like bailing water with a leaking bucket. Here are a few of the things that we see that are counterproductive to our marriages:

Divorce and separation are difficult situations not only for the adults but also can be devastating for the children involved.  Divorce is the break down of the family system as the children have always known it to be.  Webster defines breaking as “to separate into parts with suddenness or violence, to destroy unity or completeness of”.   Children can feel a sense of this suddenness and disunity when one night their parents are together and the next they are not. It is true that children are resilient and can work through issues of divorce with help from counseling however ignoring or downplaying how divorce impacts the child can be devastating and smaller issues grow into larger problems if not addressed.  The worst thing for parents to do is to not discuss the divorce or separation with the child or only brush over it with a one-time discussion about how things are going to change.  Both parents need to discuss these changes with the child(ren) and the changes will need to be addressed multiple times. It is important to recognize some signs of concern for the child and bring them in for help: