I recently had a client lamenting the fact that her mother didn’t seem to know how to get beyond surface deep. That no matter how much her daughter wanted to share with her on a deeper more intimate level, the mother would always revert to surface talk. The daughter was frustrated by the inability to have a quality relationship with her mother and the judgemental nature of their conversations.
I found myself saying to her, “You, know some people only live three inches deep. They will not allow themselves to go beyond that depth for fear of touching on issues or emotions that they don’t know how to deal with.”