Posted at 15:31h
, LAURA FITE
Divorce and separation are difficult situations not only for the adults but also can be devastating for the children involved. Divorce is the break down of the family system as the children have always known it to be. Webster defines breaking as “to separate into parts with suddenness or violence, to destroy unity or completeness of”. Children can feel a sense of this suddenness and disunity when one night their parents are together and the next they are not.
It is true that children are resilient and can work through issues of divorce with help from counseling however ignoring or downplaying how divorce impacts the child can be devastating and smaller issues grow into larger problems if not addressed. The worst thing for parents to do is to not discuss the divorce or separation with the child or only brush over it with a one-time discussion about how things are going to change. Both parents need to discuss these changes with the child(ren) and the changes will need to be addressed multiple times.
It is important to recognize some signs of concern for the child and bring them in for help: